Feeling Bad and Wondering Why
You wake up in the morning and wonder why you have an uneasy feeling in your stomach. You are scared and hide under your covers and hope that people will just go away. You feel tired and want someone to take care of you. You find that your temper can be tapped easy and have difficulties finding good in others. You wonder why your mother and father don’t love you. You deal with others each day but cannot figure out what the rules of engagement are with them. Some days they treat you with respect; other times they talk behind your back. You have friends, family members, and significant others who never seem to give you what you desire or need. You make every attempt to gain the love of those you figure should love you back. You feel very worn and are not enjoying life as you would like. You find it difficult to talk in front of crowds and have many fears in life. Does any of these statements sound familiar to you? Living life can definitely be a challenge for everyone. It is especially difficult in a society that de-emphasizes morality and virtuous living. When you add sexual, physical, and emotional hurt to your life, I believe you will begin to lose touch with what is real in life.
How many relationships are you currently involved in which you can say are honest, respectful, and loving. When you make your assessment of your relationships are you being guided by your thoughts or your feelings? These are significant areas to consider when you begin to look at what is causing you to feel bad, lonely, empty, tired, irritable, hopeless, helpless, and unhappy. I believe these feelings are due to the hurts you have encountered by the people you have come in contact and quite possibly have intimate relationships. This may sound surprising to you and quite unbelievable. The more obvious hurts in the form of sexual and physical abuse are easier to ascertain as abusive than the more subtle hurts that take the form of put downs, criticism, name calling, and messages suggesting that you should not exist. When people tell you that their problems in life are a result of your existence, then the message may be interpreted to mean the problem would not exist if you do not exist. I believe these negative messages are subtle enough to go unnoticed and over time cause much hurt for the receiver of this message. I will discuss how the subtle messages have contributed to many forms of maladaptive responses by the victims of these negative messages.
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